The Two Parts to an Apology

by Tanya Monteiro on 03/05/2019

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This recording is from a series I watched.

It’s called Criminal Minds, what I found fascinating is that it was produced by a man who was sexually abused as a child. He defended himself in court, got the attention of the FBI, worked for them and then years later produced this gripping TV series.

In this episode I found myself standing in front of the TV recording what I never could articulate.

“Apologies are just words, I want to make AMENDS and that takes work”

Those words felt like a puzzle inside of me had just been completed. They said exactly how I felt for a very long time but could never express it in words.

Now when I say sorry I really think about how I can make amends with my actions and not just my words.

There are two parts to an apology, words, and actions.

02 April update: Chatted to a friend, Jessica Uys, an enneagram coach whose succinct response had to be added to this post.

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