“I’m not worried about someone finding out my secrets, because secrets are just facts, right? So if someone is going through my private things, for example, and gets upset about what they find, then that’s their problem, not mine!”
When I was about 14 years old I returned from an oversees trip to my mother telling me she had read all my diaries. It was horrible, I felt terrible and she was more than mad. Now re-read the quote above again please.
This blog post written by an extraordinary man named Derek Sivers promoted the opportunity for me to think of what I keep secret and re-evaluate, once again. No one else has ever made me think like Derek Sivers does, no one!
The odd thing is, I think allot of us think we don’t keep secrets. Somehow we are so damn good at fooling ourselves we really, truly, believe that we are honest, all the time, straight forward and say it as it is.
I’m spending time now until the new year thinking again about my secrets and how I can be more and more and more transparent cause for me, that is my value.
What is yours when it comes to your secrets?
Today’s passing of Nelson Mandela has really invited a whole load of sorrow into my heart. It’s funny, he’s been ill for ages and we’ve even had discussions that he may have passed already but the announcement has left me deeply sad.
My uncle Rui, said it best in a post he made on Facebook today,
“We all want to do something to mitigate the pain of loss or to turn grief into something positive, to find a silver lining in the clouds. But I believe there is real value in just standing there, being still, being sad. I grieve…”
It’s always a challenge for me to just be in this sad place, and so I have another Thank you for Mr Mandela.
This is one of those projects that blows me away, a photographer has put together 200 images of people who look alike but have never met before.
‘The fact that two persons, totally unrelated to each other, sometimes born in different countries, share the same physical appearance is really the essence of (it).’
If I could have received R1.00 for every time someone has said to me oh you look like so and so mmmmmm who knows but I find this totally fascinating.
To read the article click here
(side Note: I’m posting some really interesting things of Facebook lately. Most of the people that are on my list are also facebook friends but if not please contact me on FB if you want to see more updates at least till the end of the year, Ill be on FB more than here)
Sometimes I come across a video that makes my heart explode with JOY, I AM THALENTE provided me with one of those moments where I just know in my gut that being back home is so right for me.
We all need support, guidance and where does that come from when you’re a street kid? It’s crucial for the success of South Africa that we all try to figure out how to help those who’s examples of love and learning and values are based on things that will destroy, not build. Who do these kids learn about life from?
Maybe Thalente got lucky, maybe the idea of helping every kid is so overwhelming you’ll read this and think you silly girl how on earth can this happen to every kid? What I think is, Thalente is going to grow from this experience and he will ultimately help his own kind and that is how we are going to build South Africa, one tiny step at a time.
Chrissy Carter was one of the amazing teachers at our 200Hour 1month intense NYC YogaWorks – Teacher Training (we had 4) – Alignment springs to mind any time that I think of Chrissy. Thank you for being an inspiration from afar. Danielle Forbes Coleman any chance you have the pic of us all at graduation please?
Last night we went to a movie hosted by Life Line Durban. Miss Israel who became Miss World was raped 6 weeks before being crowned Miss World, this movie follows her path. Rape statistics are out of control Globally and generally only a VERY VERY small percentage of people actually report the cases let alone take legal action against the rapists.
Linor is an incredible force of passionate and determination. Her honesty and deep desire to really help makes a huge difference in getting the attention this crime needs globally. I was broken when Linor visits South Africa and listens to some of the stories that are daily happenings in our beautiful Country, we are the Capital in the world for Rape and again how many actually get reported?
“women in South Africa have more chance of being raped than getting an education”
The most powerful medicine in the movie was the support Linor got from her family, in particular her mother who told her to speak and not give a damn what the neighbours think. Having a soft place to land is a human battery, having a soft place to land after a violation like rape can change how a person lives the rest of their lives.
Linor I salute you!
Literally every where I turn every day at the moment I am reminded of the boundaries I need and want to push to get Surviving and Thriving up online and USEFUL.
Yesterday I stumbled on this 12min video between Stephen Fry and Malcolm Gladwell discussing Gladwell’s latest book David Goliath Underdogs Misfits Battling. Both men are very interesting to me, I was not disappointed.
They talk about dyslexia and how it very often puts people in jail or turns them into CEO’s. I’ve always wondered if I’m dyslexic, some day I will do the test.
I love that in their research they discovered that 30% of the entrepreneurs they spoke to had some kind of learning disorder. As a kid I remember being diagnosed with a “learning disorder”, I was looking at people (mainly my mother) just above the area between the eyes and not in the eyes. Truth is, I was terrified of my mother growing up and I’m pretty certain that had allot to do with why I was in that doctors room but I was “diagnosed” with a learning disorder.
Regardless when asked if people would take it away the answer is mostly NO and this is why the talk resonated SO much with me. As human beings we require people to have suffered certain kinds of adversity because we need the fruits of their learning. It’s a huge debate but I believe it to my core and I also believe that we need adversity to feel. Especially for those who refuse to be passive, refuse to roll over and play dead.
“The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore all progress depends on the unreasonable man”.
George Bernard Shaw,
Everything has a cost but the question is How do we advance in the world?
There’s lots more jewels of thought, if you’re curious about the complexities of having parents that appear to be different or as Shakespeare said, learn more about “sweet are the uses of adversity” please watch. Oh and here’s a link to the real story of the 3000 year old David & Goliath Fairytale.
Each Tuesday I teach a yoga class in Durban North and I’ve decided to post on a yoga teacher that has made an impact on my life every Tuesday.
Looking forward to seeing our regular Tuesday nighters at yoga tonight.
The very first yoga class I took with Yogeswari ”Asimbonanga” was our opening song. We were in NYC and I was missing South Africa allot, I knew immediately that I had found a lasting teacher! Thank you Yogeswari
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As times goes by I realise that surviving and thriving go hand in hand. When I started this blog in 2009 I struggled to find a URL that could work but I’d promised myself one evening that I was going to get a blog going no matter what so after much searching and thinking I came up with www.survivingorthrivingnow.com.
Fast forward to few years and one of the most consistant statements I get about these two words is that most people survive AND thrive. Two people made me think about the OR that I thought was important at the time.
I remember meeting the the Gothamgal for the first time and discussing my ideas around Surviving or Thriving. Joanne said something along the lines of “I do both, depends” and then a few years later working with my coach Jerry Colonna I discussed my vision for surviving OR thriving and Jerry said “Why does it have to be OR, why can’t it be AND?”
Certainly this theme has run through almost everyone I talk to about this project. We spend some time in both places, I just want to make sure that while I’m on this earth I encourage anyone I meet to be aware enough of how much time we spend in each place and see if we can find ways to spend it more in the Thriving space.
This quote below was sent to me today by a friend who knows me well, it made me smile and want to share these tips to Thriving.
I’m constantly fascinated by careers that don’t fit the norm. A couple of years ago on a trip to Mauritius I discovered a friend’s family had this huge salt “farm” and I was lucky enough to take a tour of it. Sadly I don’t have any picture of this experience but when I came across this man who farms salt I was reminded of my friend Celine and spent a little time lost in thought and respect for those of us in this world who stick to their inside compass and do what they feel is the right thing with each and every day of their lives. Enjoy this short clip below,
added on Nov 10 ….. in true WWW style, I sent a quick email to my friend in Mauritius who read this post and immediately sent me pix of her salt pans so I added them below the video.